Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Where to begin with this one. I have a daughter who is 11 and has ADHD. Raising her, to say the least, is very taxing. Things have spiraled so out of control with her that I daily, DREAD waking up. I feel like I've lost her. I miss my little Taylor, my Tada Bug. She is impossible to reward or discipline. She doesn't care about anything or anyone besides herself. It's killing me here. She lies, steals, destroys property, fights, screams, slams doors and overall is impossible to live with. She'll lie when the truth is easier. She'll steal because she gets what she wants. She does whatever it is she wants on a whim because no on e is the boss of her. The stress I have with her is literally killing me. I've had her on medication, and off medication. I've had her in a social group called STRIDE, I've had her in therapy at home and at an office. I've had her tested, I've had training on how to deal with an ADHD child. I feel very alone and at an end here. I hate punishing her, for one it accomplishes absolutely nothing, but I can't reward her because of the lying, stealing...etc: that goes on. I've tried so many techniques with positive reinforcement, letting things be an award not a punishment. I've tried to be strict, I've given her a foot and she takes a football field. I've tried school, friends, activities even church. NOTHING helps. Her entire focus is going to my Aunt's where she tells me that she is spoiled there, non of her siblings are there so no one can bother her or tell her what to do. Everything is handed to her and nothing is expected from her. Reports from her is she's fine, she acts well she hardly argues. Even now, worrying about what she'll do tomorrow is eating at me already. What fights we'll get in, or how innocent and nice she'll act. I feel like "act" is the entire basis for her living. She acts fine, she acts nice but at home...she's like, words won't even come to me at this point. If anyone has advice, I'd sure love it, I'm lost out here with no light and it's very dark.